The “What’s Going on?” series is my way of bridging the gap between my personal life and the Word Oasis blog. I want to share not only my ideas, but who I am. I update seasonally on what I’m up to, struggles I’m facing, and successes I’ve had. It’s a depiction of life.
Since my last update this past summer, a lot has happened (yet again)! I find myself in a current season of life where so much is in transition. Normally, this would put me on edge about where to go next. However, in this period of my life, I feel very peaceful. I keep reminding myself that the early twenties is often a timeframe that brings a lot of change. It takes time to figure things out, and I’m learning to be okay with that. I’m kind of just fumbling my way through life, and I’m actually enjoying it. Trust the process, right? I feel as though I’m in my personal metamorphosis, and I’m soaking up every moment.
So, first and foremost, I moved back home to Connecticut. I know, I was really only in Rhode Island for a few months, but at the end of the day, this is by far the best choice for my financial situation and my accompanying mental health. The financial stress severely spiked my anxiety and even resulted in my physical health declining. I knew I had to do what was best for me. Now, I’m back home and doing much better.
It turned out to be a quick decision, actually. The time between the idea floating around my mind to packing up boxes and moving back only took about a week. I had honestly reached my breaking point, and I knew I needed to act fast. Even still, it was a difficult decision, and I found myself questioning my own judgement. I really had to dial in on trusting my intuition and what I inherently knew I needed, and I went with that in the end. I’m really glad I did; it was the right decision.
After everything calmed down a bit and I was moved home, I got excited. I’m back in my room now, and that offers a lot of opportunity. First, I get to downsize. I’m going from living in a house of my own to living in a single room again. I’m going to have to get rid of some stuff, and that’s actually quite the relief. I’m one of those people who tends to accumulate a lot, especially things that I don’t need/aren’t functional in my life. I’m excited to go through it all, make donations, and clear out my space some more. And the goal of this isn’t to fill it back up, it’s to utilize what I have and to learn more about the concept of minimalism in the process.
On that same thread, I get to redesign my room! I get to shift some things around and make it more functional for my present life. I’m really looking forward to making the most of my space and cleaning things up. I plan on blogging the whole project, so stay tuned for those posts coming in 2020!
When things in life get crazy, school feels the brunt of it. As you might be able to imagine, moving in the middle of the semester is not at all ideal. However, I’ve really done my best considering everything and I’m proud of myself. It’s my first semester enrolled in three courses of my MA program as opposed to two, and I’m handling it well. Could it be better? Of course. But I’m learning a lot and generally enjoying my classes, so I consider that a win. I’m studying a lot of fascinating topics this semester that have piqued my interest and motivate me to learn more (linguistics especially!).
The most important thing that I feel I’m getting out of this semester is that I see how these courses will help to shape my future career. I’ve found myself saving so many articles that my professors have put in class modules because I want to go back to them and utilize them as resources in the future. I’m leaving this semester with really important projects completed that I can put in my professional portfolio. There is so much I’m taking in this semester that I can legitimately see myself applying to my life, so that is always nice.
A quick update because I recently figured it out: it looks like I will complete my MA in 2021. This was slightly disappointing to me because I would have liked to finish it sooner, but based on when they’re offering my required classes, this is the timeframe I have. However, in the meantime, I’m going to be looking into additional classes at other institutions that aren’t offered in my current program. I really want to take a grant writing class, so what better time to do that than before I complete my Master’s?
I know what you might be wondering: if I moved out, then what about my boyfriend? We are still happily together. He has the biggest heart, and fully supported me in moving home for my health. He’s always told me he just wants me to be happy, so when it came down to me moving, it wasn’t even a question for him. He was 100% behind me, and this entire situation truly reminded me how fortunate I am to have such a supportive and loving partner. Now, this means we only get to see each other a couple times per week, but we make the most of our time together and chat on the phone often. I’m a lucky lady, for sure.
We are so excited for our second holiday season together this year. If you know us personally, you may know that Chris is a chef in the healthcare industry. This means that he always has to work at least some holidays. Last year, he sadly had to work Thanksgiving, Christmas Eve, and Christmas Day. We saw each other for a brief part of those days, but didn’t get the full experience, so to speak. This year, he has Thanksgiving completely off and I can’t wait! Also… we currently have some fun trips and experiences planned in the next year, so I’m sure I’ll blog those, as well!
JOB & Career
With all of that being said, the next thing I want to cover is my job and career goals. I am working for my dad at the auto shop again as an administrative office assistant while I look toward the next step in my career. It looks like I will also be coaching again in the near future, too. I’ve reached out to a local gym and hopefully I’ll be able to get plugged in there soon! Right now, I’m just focusing on doing whatever it is I do with excellence. Whether or not it’s what I want to do for the rest of my life, I recognize my roles as important and I’m excited to do good work wherever I’m at.
In addition, I’m seeking out different positions in my field to see if I can get some interviews and see what I need to do to build a career in professional writing and editing. I’m also aiming picking up some writing and editing work on the side to get some experience under my belt.
On that note, I think the most exciting development I have on this topic is that I’ve recently started a PR service with my friend, Bethany, where my primary role is public relations writing. It’s called QB Correspondence, and you can currently find us on Instagram: @qbcorrespondence. It’s all a work in progress right now, but we have a couple of clients so far and I’m really enjoying it! It will be exciting to see where this goes.
If you saw my last post, then you know that my creative writing has been going through an evolution of sorts. I’ve recently accomplished two things I’m quite proud of. One, I finished a draft of a long-form poem. It has a darker vibe and I really love its direction. Two, I started a short story that has a really strong plot thus far. I need to finish it, and I will. I’m holding myself accountable! I felt that these two pieces were the start to my edgier writing with a really distinct voice that is authentically me with where I am in my life. I can’t wait to share these pieces in the future when they’re more or less “finished” (if you’re an artist, you know how it goes).
I’m also officially relaunching Caspertown in this season. Yes, I’ve finally restarted my novel! It’s in the very preliminary stages right now, but it feels so good to be back in the story’s setting. I’m expanding my perspectives and reaching into topics that I’ve never explored before in all regards of this plot, and I feel in my bones that I’m telling an important story. I believe in it wholeheartedly. When I started it again, I went back to the beginning. I handwrote those first lines, just like when I was a kid. I really tried to make myself feel at ease with the lines on the page again, and that was so lovely.
I want to briefly mention three genres that are in the works for my writing, as well. Much more to come on these later!
- Lyric writing
- Creative nonfiction
- Children’s literature
In other random news, I’ve been feeling particularly inspired while driving lately. I’m not sure why this has become such a trend for me, but if there’s any place to mention it, it would be here. There’s just something about mulling over ideas in my mind as I’m cruising. I’ve enjoyed it.
Lifestyle and Mental Health
As I mentioned before, it’s been wonderful to feel relief from that financial stress I was experiencing. I am very fortunate to be able to have another option. I’ve been feeling a lot of gratitude since I’ve been home, which I suppose is in keeping with the season. As a result, I’ve been making it a point since I’ve been back to place an emphasis on saving money. That is one reason I’m back home; to build my savings back up while also strengthening my career path. I’ve been thinking big picture lately.
I’ve also been implementing a lot of little shifts into my life to make it better, and they’ve made a world of difference! These changes have involved family time, my yoga practice, cultivating my space (as I’ve mentioned), and journaling. Reflecting back on this time in my life within these shifts and seeing how this time contributes to that big picture has been so therapeutic. A side note about yoga: I’ll be going back to my former studio soon! That’s definitely one perk to moving back to Connecticut; I’ve missed my yoga studio so much. Just taking this time to connect with myself in one specific moment has been good, especially with having so much else going on.
As great as it’s been taking care of me, I also want to give back. I’m doing a local fundraiser selling scarves that I’m knitting myself. All proceeds go to the Connecticut Humane Society. Once the fundraiser comes to a close, I’ll be picking up items from CT Humane’s online wish list of items they need for the animals. I really wanted to do something to contribute to my community in a positive way, and I encourage you to find a way to do the same! I’m so glad that by taking care of myself some more, I can also take help to take care of others who need it.
Here, I quickly want to note other shifts that I’m working on making:
- Making more time for free reading
- Solidifying a bedtime routine that works well for me
I’m looking forward to discovering other ways I can better myself and maintain balance in my life.
Ultimately, this season is all about manifesting for the future, creating little by little, and tinkering behind the scenes. I’m letting life flow as much as possible, knowing that I’m working toward something greater and it’s not all about right now. This age can be terrifying to be honest, but everything happens in its time. I’m doing my best, and I really am learning to accept that as enough. Accepting where we are at sounds so simple, but it can be wildly complicated, and I’ve been working to release the need for things to look a certain way. I realize I’m in the in-between, but I’m still forging my path.
Much Love, Quinn